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Counselling and Therapy blog:The nitty gritty behind closed doors
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Leisure Time

Nothing is ever that urgent...make sure you prioritise regularly and that you make time for the essential practise of rest and relaxation. We work so hard and get tangled up in "to do" lists, other people's demands and duties and in the process we forget to nurture ourselves. It is NOT selfish to take some time out to recharge. In fact, doing this makes you a fresher, more capable individual. Not taking time out renders you tired and less effective in the long run.So, clear that schedule, put your feet up and recharge your batteries...that's an order!!! ;)

M x

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Dealing with your partner's narcissistic ex

This is a subject that has become extremely interesting to me over the last year or two and I have subsequently completed a lot of research on the matter.
Here I give tips on how to remain sane...

Not every ex is narcissistic but the common signs to look for are:

• An exaggerated sense of entitlement
• A supercilious manner, considering themselves better than others
• A lack of empathy where others are concerned. They lack the ability to see other people's points of view.
• An inability to examine their own behaviour and correct it. They see everything as someone else's fault
• High level of manipulation
• High need to be appreciated and seen as wonderful...

The best way to deal with people like this is to realise that trying to have a normal negotiation will be useless. They only see life in terms of their own experience and will quickly revert to insults and vindictive behaviour if they do not get their way. They are also very self absorbed. Lying is a hobby for them. It makes them feel superior if they can lie and get away with it.

How to deal with them:
logic and reason will not work if you do not share their views/goals. use "I" statements and limit time with these toxic people. They rarely change, they rarely acknowledge their faults. They are even less likely to take a critical look at themselves

Write to me for further info..

M x


Write to Mandy for free advice. Click on "comment" or go to forum on www.mandyjane-lifedesign.com